Not too long ago, the sex toy space for people with penises was scarce and uninspired. The antiquated idea that butt stuff was gay and that our hands were capable enough was preventing many of us from experiencing new sensations and taking our sexual pleasure to new, unexplored heights.
Today, it’s estimated that men represent 11 percent of the sex toy market. However, the proposed figure (lifted from an analysis of over 1,000,000 sex toy sales and 300,000-plus reviews) doesn’t account for lubricant or anal toys. Considering this analysis later reveals that butt plugs account for 40 percent of male sex toy purchases and that single men purchase more dildos than any other demographic, it’s safe to assume that the percentage of men who make up the sex toy market is actually much higher.
As we’ve continued opening our minds and investing in sex toys, a new and lucrative market has emerged, allowing brands to create more innovative toys that better satisfy a man or penis owner’s individual wants and needs. From butt plugs and strokers to prostate massagers and cock rings, the 15 sex toys below are proof that all bodies and genders are deserving of toe-curling pleasure.
- Best Overall Sex Toy for Men: Fun Factory Manta
- Best Splurge Sex Toy for Men: Lelo Loki Wave
- Best Budget Sex Toy for Men: Svakom Hedy
- Best Butt Toy: Fun Factory B Ball Uno
- Best High-Tech Sex Toy for Men: Arcwave Ion
- Best Prostate Massager for Beginners: Lelo Billy 2
- Best for Butt-Stuff Beginners: Master Series Expansion Trainer Anal Dilator Set
- Best Stroker: Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit
- Best Rimming Simulator: bVibe Rimming Plug 2
- Best Long-Distance Sex Toy: We-Vibe Ditto
- Best Vibrating Cock Ring: We-Vibe Bond
- Best Cock Ring: Perfect Fit Xact-Fit 3 Ring Cock Ring Kit
- Best Lubricant: Überlube
- Best for Premature Ejaculation: Promescent Delay Spray
- Best Open-Ended Stroker: Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage
The Best Sex Toys for Men in 2021
It may not look like your traditional stroker, but the award-winning Manta from German manufacturer Fun Factory (established in 1996) is the most satisfying device that’ll ever touch your penis. The toy is brilliantly designed, from the tips that flutter against the shaft like a hummingbird’s wings to ridges that retain lube for a longer, better glide. The Manta can be used on your own (for stroking and head vibration) or with a partner (for oral sex and penetration), effectively turning your penis into a vibrator via its six vibration speeds and patterns. Think sexy Inspector Gadget.
The Loki Wave by Lelo is the first prostate massager to offer the body melting "come hither" motion via its trademark WaveMotion Technology. The prostate is often compared to the G-spot for people with penises, as it is dense with delicious nerve endings, and, according to research, can produce orgasms roughly 33 percent stronger than manual stroking. The Loki Wave massages the prostate both internally (via the anus) and externally (via the perineum), through its 10 stimulation modes and dual motors. The Loki Wave is expensive, but it’s a long-term investment that won’t disappoint.
When it comes to temporary strokers (note: most can be used about five to 10 times, provided you thoroughly clean them afterward), the Tenga Egg might come first to mind, but the Svakom Hedy Masturbator is superior in quality and sensation. Though small in appearance, Svakom’s Hedy masturbator is made with ultra soft TPE and stretches to fit any size, with emphasis on the head of the penis. The masturbator comes in a box of just one, but bigger sets offer three different textures and a packet of lube with each. While not the best strokers by any means, they are the best bang for your buck.
Also from Fun Factory, the B Ball Uno is a smaller, spherical butt plug that’s great for beginners or those seeking a comfortable fit. What differentiates the B Ball Uno from competing plugs is the weighted ball inside, which bounces, rolls and rumbles as you move your body, bringing some erotic excitement to otherwise arduous tasks like vacuuming or grocery shopping. The B Ball Uno can spice up partnered sex as well, providing powerful feedback as you thrust back and forth.
Billing itself a “revolutionary stroker device” offering “the closest thing to a female orgasm for men,” the Arcwave Ion uses the same Pleasure Air technology (“pulsat[ing] and massag[ing] changes in air pressure”) that made their clit suction toy, the Womanizer, a raving success among people with vulvas. WOW Tech Group, the brand behind Womanizer, re-engineered the Arcwave Ion so that people with penises can experience this next-level novelty by targeting the sensitive “Pacinian receptors” in the penis, which can also be found in the clitoris. The device, which is quite sleek considering the level of technology involved, comes in two parts: a detachable textured silicone sleeve and the device responsible for the technology. The Arcwave Ion also comes with a charging base, containing silica packets that absorbs leftover water after washing and doubles as a discreet carrying case.
The Billy 2 is a slimmer prostate massager from the accomplished minds at Lelo. It’s an excellent option for individuals curious to explore anal stimulation. With a tapered tip for easy insertion and a shape that targets the prostate, your body will tremble as you navigate the eight pleasure settings and build toward an explosive orgasm. Since the Billy 2 is a Lelo product, quality and longevity is assured.
If you’re just starting to explore anal stimulation, a dilation set is a great investment to ensure you’re working toward your goal at a safe and comfortable pace. Each hollow plug in this five-piece set from Master Series allows the user to gradually build toward the succeeding toy by training the sphincter muscles. The first toy in the series measures at 3.4 inches in length and 1 inch in diameter and the last measures at 5 inches in length and 1.9 inches in diameter. While the set is designed to gradually increase tolerance, it’s also a great tool for solo pleasure, or as foreplay with a partner.
There are a lot of bad strokers out there, but the Fleshlight is the OG (established in 1998) and remains a fan favorite today. Over the years, Fleshlight has crafted many iterations of their namesake stroker, but the Stamina Training Unit was specifically designed to replicate the intimate sensations of intercourse with a realistic interior texture to build stamina and improve performance. Its soft SuperSkin material feels just like the real thing, and if you don’t fancy vulvas, you can choose from other orifices like mouths, bums, and even alien and monster genitalia for sci-fi style roleplay.
Whether you’re a fan of rimming or just curious, butt-stuff brand bVibe has developed the world’s first rimming butt plug, designed to replicate the sensual experience of analingus via rotating beads in the neck of the toy. The Rimming Plug 2 features seven twirling modes to tease nerve-endings in the anal opening and hosts an additional motor in the tip of the toy to simultaneously stimulate the anus. The Rimming Plug is available in three sizes: Rimming Plug Petite, Rimming Plug 2 and Rimming Plug XL, and can also be used with a remote-control up to 30 feet away.
Technology has come so far that we’re now able to be intimate with people who live across the world. The Ditto is one of many bluetooth-enabled toys from We-Vibe, coming paired with a remote that allows the user to control different intensity and vibration modes. Its design features a slim and flexible base allowing the user to freely wiggle and find their sweet spot. You can also connect the device to We-Vibe’s free We-Connect app, which can be accessed anywhere, making it a fantastic option for long-distance intimacy. The app also allows users to create custom vibration patterns and lets you play with other consenting users who are also using We-Vibe products.
There are many toys that allow for discreet sexy times in public, but very few are made for the penis. Fortunately, We-Vibe is here to fill that void with Bond, their latest cock ring that can be synced to the brand’s free We-Connect app, where the wearer can select from a library of vibrating options, make a pattern of their own, or having someone else pilot the toy for some sexy fun at dinner on date night. The Bond has a new feature called the Custom Fit Link to ensure the device can comfortably fit most penises and early reviews for the toy have been overwhelmingly positive.
If you want a cock ring without the bells and whistles, the Xact-Fit 3 Ring Cock Ring Kit is a reputable and affordable option. Since cock rings are designed to prevent blood flow from escaping the erection (resulting in firmer, more sensitive and longer-lasting erections), you’re going to want one that fits just right. Thankfully, Perfect Fit offers four 3-ring kits in mixed, medium, large and extra large sizes, giving penis-owners 14 different cock ring options to choose from. The rings are made from soft touch silicone and can stretch two times their diameter. Given their many different sizes, these cock rings can be worn around the base of the shaft and under the scrotum, on the shaft and scrotum alone, or stacked along the shaft.
Lube might not fit neatly under the “sex toy” category, but its inclusion is imperative to a comfortable and pleasurable sexual experience. What makes Überlube superior to other brands is that it’s designed to dissipate over time, leaving skin soft and moisturized instead of sticky. Überlube is of such high quality that athletes even use it to avoid chafing. The lubricant comes in a stylish glass bottle, is long-lasting and doesn’t stain the sheets, unlike most silicone lubes that can take some serious scrubbing to clean. However, Überlube shouldn’t be used with silicone toys as silicone-based lubes can degrade the material after extended use. If you’re using a silicone toy, opt for water-based lubricants instead.
If you’re looking for a solution to last longer in bed, Promescent Climax Control Spray is a fantastic and affordable option. Using a local anesthetic known as lidocaine, Promescent’s Climax Control Spray desensitizes the penis without numbing and uses a trademark technology to alter the composition of lidocaine so it absorbs in as little as 10 to 15 minutes with minimum transference to partners. The spray is designed to relax the 6,000-plus nerve cells in the penis and lasts for roughly an hour. The team’s research found the product can help users last up to 64 percent longer in bed, which is anywhere from six to 11 minutes on average.
Measuring in at 3.5 inches (less than half the size of the original Fleshlight), the Quickshot is an open-ended stroker from Fleshlight that also makes for a fantastic oral sex aid. The toy can be entered from both ends, each featuring the Fleshlight’s soft and fleshy SuperSkin and a chamber hosting an intensely satisfying interior texture. Because the Quickshot is open-ended, cleanup is a breeze; just rinse with warm water and let dry.